Modern pop culture is a huge confidence boost for women nowadays, being surrounded by powerful woman who release their inner sexiness and show us all that it is ok to take the lead. Compared to years gone by, there have been some fascinating changes regarding how the men and women of today’s world operate in the bedroom. In fact, it is actually now the woman who is most likely to take charge in the bedroom, getting a thrill from taking the lead in bedroom and having the power to decide the time and place.
Since today’s women feel more sexually empowered than their mothers or grandmothers did, taking a more open-minded approach leads to them wanting more control in the bedroom and telling their partner’s exactly what gets them going. Whether they want to whip out the double penetration toys to experiment with new toys or try some fruity new positions under the sheets, there are endless benefits to taking control of your sexual pleasure.
If you don’t know where to start when it comes to regaining control in the bedroom, here are some top tips to try out for yourself:
Address your desires
Not only is communication essential for voicing what turns you on, but it will help you get to know your partner from the inside out, bringing you closer together than ever before (in more ways than one!). Communication is key and if you don’t talk about what you want in bed, you could easily end up in a situation where neither of you makes any moves. If you open up discussions in an honest and mature manner, you can both feel safe, desired, and heard to really keep your relationship full of lust and excitement.
Unleash your experimental side
Whether you introduce flirty games, saucy sex toys, or even risk having sex outside of the bedroom, taking the lead will mean you can both try something new and maybe even find new pleasures that you had never even considered before. By bringing out a new level of inner confidence, you will soon notice how much more open minded and experimental you have become.
Take the lead
Even actions as simple as making suggestions or decisions about what activities the sex will include counts as control and is enough to drive a partner crazy, stepping up by having more involvement than you normally would. We often think that taking control means that the other partner is losing all of theirs and being passive, but everyone’s definition differs so you can make your idea of control feel less intimidating than you may initially think.
Get out of old habits
Whatever your fantasies are, change up power play so you can experience different stages throughout your sexual ventures. Take turns to take charge, experiencing differing types of sex so you can both test out your fantasies. Perhaps one of you likes being more submissive most of the time, but wants to try switching the roles, or maybe you want to try a bit of foreplay and bring out the saucy lingerie costumes.
